November 13, 2016 GingerGoose Boutique 3Comment

Today I extend my gratitude for partnership, love, and like minds. This is a post from my dear, fellow, and loving blogger Samantha at www.strivingmommablog.com on acceptance, modeling Mother Teresa’s beliefs, and practicing compassion. We need to understand that everyone walks their own path, everyone has a story, and everyone has their own motivators. Our purpose here is to share love, not to judge. We hold no right to judge. Judgement many times comes from the lack of understanding. Samantha shares her thoughts on judgement and why it is so important to follow Mother Teresa’s words, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” Without further ado, Samantha’s words: 

I recently started becoming more active on social media lately after a year’s-long hiatus. I knew of drama being a regular occurrence on Facebook, but I hadn’t been prepared for just how much. A lot of people on my Facebook feed—not to mention on the news and in my everyday life—are being hateful and spewing criticisms about anything and everything. It has really made me take notice of how often I’m judging others, and I’ve come to a conclusion: I have to start letting go of my judgments and personal biases.

Let Go of Toxic Judgments.

I understand completely that differences in opinions or lifestyles can be annoying or even angering. I really do. Sometimes I have a strong urge to tell someone they’re an idiot for believing what they believe. But instead of doing that, I take a moment to tell myself that I’m the one in the wrong. I am the idiot for thinking that. In moments like these, I know I need to take Mother Teresa’s stance: I can’t love others if I judge them.

Maybe I do disagree completely with someone’s beliefs. Maybe we don’t see eye to eye on things, and never will. However, that doesn’t give me the right to judge or condemn them. If I do that, I’m guilty of bigotry, and that isn’t acceptable to me. In my opinion, every person has a duty to be accepting and tolerant of others’ opinions. Even if someone is hateful and rude, I still need to be respectful, because if I’m not…what makes me any better than them?

If you’re respectful and loving rather than judgmental, you’ll be able to gain insight and understanding. You may even form new opinions or beliefs.  You may also stand by your original opinion. However, no matter your personal, political, or religious beliefs, it’s your duty as a human being to love others. You can’t love someone and be judgmental of them at the same time. That isn’t to say you can’t disagree with them; it only means you have to be respectful in your disagreements. Because really, holding on to hateful judgments doesn’t just hurt the other person, it hurts you. Let go of toxic judgments and instead love your fellow humans, regardless of their beliefs.

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”   -Mother Teresa

Hear more of Samantha’s thoughts on everyday life at www.strivingmommablog.com or visit her at www.pinterest.com/strivingmomma or at Twitter @StrivingMomma.

I want to thank Samantha for sharing her lesson and her thoughts on this matter. Judgement has become a very sensitive thing in our world and we many times use it as a weapon. The thing about judgement is that it’s like a drug. We may feel at first high and almighty but in truth by being judgmental it’s tearing down our own character. By having this point of view we are not allowing ourselves to be our authentic true selves and give the love we are meant to give, we are not allowing our light of truth to shine. Open your heart, practice understanding through love, and share compassion with yourself and with others. 

 

3 thoughts on “Letting Go Of Toxic Judgments (Guest Post)

  1. THIS: “you can’t love someone and be judgemental at the same time”.

    There is so much truth in this, and it is so pertinent at the moment with the political and emotional climate.

    Everyone needs to take a step back, breathe, and remember that we’re all human beings. Always take steps from a place of love. And if you can’t do that in the moment, then don’t take a step. Do what you gotta do to get yourself in that space, and then act.

    Or at least try to see or empathise with the alternative point of view.

    Of course this is hard as hell and this opinion of mine will probably change depending on the scenario – but we could all try to be good right? Lol!
    X
    Zaki

  2. Such a powerful post. You are exactly right that at times, all a person wants to do is tell someone what they really think, or that they are wrong. While I don’t disagree that they should be told (if they are actually wrong), they should not be judged for it.

    The world is in the mess it is in because of that mentality.

    Will happily share this post.

    Thank you

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