How I’m Learning to Embrace Beautiful Vulnerability

Well folks, here it is the second day that I’m co-hosting for #LoveBlog2019. I shared a little bit about my feelings on Instagram about writing today’s prompt – Vulnerability. I shared my thoughts with a picture of me hiding behind a SnapChat filter. It seemed fitting. Vulnerability isn’t something most of us like to share. Most likely because we were conditioned not to. As a result we perceive vulnerability as weakness. We see strength as an opposition to sensitivity and vulnerability. As I grow though I’ve learned how much I appreciate vulnerability. When I see others express and show vulnerability and sensitivity I see it as this beautiful, raw experience. I see it as a sign of strength in them.

If we can allow ourselves to be vulnerable then we can truly live. We can truly experience and grow and thrive.

Doesn’t it take more strength and courage to show our faults, our flaws, in which ways we are vulnerable?

Doesn’t vulnerability most times come when we are in a state of discomfort? Isn’t that also where we grow and expand the most? How do we build strength without lessons?

Brene Brown is a wonderful teacher about vulnerability.

She is one of my favorite authors and speakers to learn more about vulnerability from. I feel as I can really relate with her in our perspectives. She states in a article, “I spent a lot of years trying to outrun or outsmart vulnerability by making things certain and definite, black and white, good and bad. My inability to lean into the discomfort of vulnerability limited the fullness of those important experiences that are wrought with uncertainty: Love, belonging, trust, joy, and creativity to name a few. Learning how to be vulnerable has been a street fight for me, but it’s been worth it.” 

Mind blown by that. She’s right!

If we block a certain set of emotions out then we lose the opportunity to feel another. We have to learn to be vulnerable and sit with uncertainty. We have to teach ourselves to be uncomfortable sometimes. This is part of our journey, part of our growing.

I’m one of those learner types. If you want me to open up to an idea then I need to explore it, study it. So I started with Brene Brown’s TED Talks.

Here’s some of my favorites:

The Power of Vulnerability

Listening to Shame

And I built a reading list:

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead by Brene Brown

A Fragile Life: Accepting Our Vulnerability by Todd May

This is still a journey for me. It will be quite the year, if not a lifetime, of learning to be vulnerable. I spent my life creating the image that I am the strong one. I am the friend that everyone leans on. Vulnerability is not something I made an option for myself. But that is changing. Through vulnerability I am able to be truer to myself. I am able to build deeper, more honest relationships and friendships. And very importantly I am learning to ask for help and to say no when I need to. This is strength. This is a beautiful transformation.

Oh and I guess I should share. Here’s my goofy SnapChat picture. I’m not going to lie, I’m a sucker for some of these filters!

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4 thoughts on “How I’m Learning to Embrace Beautiful Vulnerability

  1. I’ve bookmarked it to go back to the reading list in the future. I feel like the lady you quoted speaks for me: “My inability to lean into the discomfort of vulnerability limited the fullness of those important experiences that are wrought with uncertainty”. It’s been the story of my life, but I’ve been learning.

    1. I relate so much with Brene Brown. She speaks from her real life experiences and thoughts. Let me know what you think when you get back to reading the books/watching the TED Talks!

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