10 Powerful Life Lessons That Will Make You Happier

I have been thinking of writing a post of this sort for a few years now…well since the year I turned thirty…this coming August I’ll be turning thirty-four…guess I felt I still had some lessons to learn before I was ready to share. I used to think that roadblocks, delays or procrastination were forms of failure. I thought that they were things holding us back from success. Today I sit and I ponder the idea that maybe all of those things get in our way to help us be more prepared for when the opportunity strikes. Take dating for example. I haven’t ever met anyone that doesn’t have a story of heartbreak. Heartbreaks are necessary for our growth, an opportunity to learn more about our ourselves and about what we not only want in our lives (and relationships) but also what we need. I believe that applies in several other areas of our lives as well. The failed business or career dreams that pushed us to learn new skills and new ways to prevail. I’m not the same girl I was twenty years ago, ten years ago, or even a year ago. I’ve evolved with every experience and it’s a beautiful and powerful process and I owe that to the challenges, the delays and the procrastination that gave me the time to absorb the things I needed to become this person. 

  1. Learn to love yourself. – Learn to love yourself fully, unconditionally and fiercely. I know I preach this all of the time but this was one of my greatest lessons. Love yourself the way you love others. You deserve as much love yourself as you give out to others. This doesn’t mean I don’t get disappointed with myself, it doesn’t mean that I think of myself higher than anyone else either. It means that I have to see myself in the perspective that I look at others in. It means that I have to see the good in myself everyday, it means that I have to be accepting of who I am and also take responsibility for the things I want to change and how I want to grow. It means I have to make it a priority to take care of myself – body, soul, mind and heart.
  2. Learn to forgive. – Forgive everything, everyone, every situation. Spite and anger will eat you from the inside out. We’ve all been hurt, we’ve all dated the jerk, we’ve all been slighted or been cut in front of in line, life just sucks sometimes. Sometimes it just has to come down to spitting out the famous phrase, “shit happens” and moving on.
  3. Be patient. – I suck at patience. I want instant gratification just as bad as the rest of you do. I want to awake in the morning and have an empire sitting in front of me. I want the paint on my canvas to dry immediately…but time is something we need to discover possibilities. Time is space, space allows things to grow. Be patient and allow the process to roll out.
  4. Anger is okay sometimes. – Anger can be a motivator – if and only if you learn how to process it effectively and thoroughly. Anger is not a true emotion, it is a reaction to other emotions. You become angry because you are hurt, or scared, or disappointed or whatever. Expose the true root of the anger. Use this to motivate you to make positive changes.
  5. You are responsible for yourself, not anyone else. – For what you do and for how you feel. You want to be happier? Stop blaming it on circumstances in your life…either choose a new perspective or change the circumstances.
  6. Don’t accept the mundane. – Do something you love everyday. Add your twist on everything. Make every moment magical. Love glitter? Carry the damn glitter notebook. Live your life full of color. Shake it off and laugh often.
  7. Take time to be lazy. – I am actually one of those weirdos that likes to stay busy. I don’t know what to do with myself when I don’t have a notebook full of to-do tasks and at least ten projects in motion, but you’ll burn out. I know this from experience (lots of experience) and yes I still struggle with this one but I’m getting better, Netflix helps…
  8. Stand up for yourself. – In all places (respectfully of course) but in all areas of your life. Speak your mind.
  9. Never stop learning. – I believe that we are meant to explore, experience and absorb as much information and wisdom as we can in our lives. Life is supposed to flow, we are not meant to be stagnant.
  10. Take risks. – Make a bucket list. Don’t let fear hold you back from goals, dreams, or telling someone how you feel.

 

How to Stop Making Assumptions About Yourself

You know the saying “assume makes an ass out of you and me”? How many times does this prove true? How many times do you find that your assumptions about a situation or a person turn out wrong? I’ll say 8 out 10 times…sometimes it’s not an assumption, it’s an intuition. But that’s not what I was going to chat about tonight…

Tonight I wanted to talk about how we don’t only make assumptions about situations and other people but we fall into the same trap about ourselves. We assume we’ll react to a certain situation, we assume we can’t accomplish a goal……the assumption we create in our head is manifested by fear isn’t it? Don’t we get to choose how we react in a situation? Don’t we get the chance to make a difference? Don’t we have the power to push past fear and set our minds to reach that goal?

So are assumptions actually blocks we put in place to protect ourselves from disappointment? What if you pushed through those thoughts? What if you took the power back and opened your mind, saw past the blocks we put in place?

Another place we make assumptions is in how other people view us. The best advice I ever read is “what other people think about us is none of our business”… mostly true. Physically, let that shit go. Learn to love yourself and how you look. Love your body, your mind, your heart and your soul. If you love yourself fiercely, then others will too – and more importantly the right people will love you no matter what. If you want to lose weight or get more fit, then do it for yourself and not for anyone else because that really is none of their damn business.

I find myself in thoughts of worrying about what other people think about me and how I make them feel…so I’ve started asking instead of assuming. Asking gives me the power over my mind. It becomes their responsibility to be honest with me.

My challenge to you (and to myself) is when you find you’re making an assumption, stop… do this instead:

  1. Break it down – dissect it. What concerns, thoughts, fears are driving you to this assumption?
  2. Evaluate it – Okay, are these concerns and fears justified by facts? Are they based on previous experiences and can you take steps to change the outcome?
  3. What other possible outcomes are there? Is your assumption built up of ultimate facts?
  4. If it’s proven facts that the outcome will be then it’s not an assumption…if it’s an assumption, take a deep breath and let it go.

50 Self-Care Focused Hashtags to Follow for Encouragement

I am a big believer of surrounding yourself with inspiration and motivation. Some days we need a little push to get us through the day. Social media has had a huge impact on what we are surrounded by, unfortunately sometimes it can inundate us with negativity but we can take control of it to help skew what we interact with on a daily basis.

  1. Unfollow folks on social media that are constantly posting negativity. 
  2. Limit how much you watch the news. It’s important to stay up to date on what’s happening in the world and in your community but manage how often you’re taking it in. Choose one time per day to watch/read the news.
  3. Control how you are obtaining the news. Focus on using reliable media companies to get your news verses taking it in on social media sites. If you see something on social media, research for a fact filled story to follow up on what you saw.
  4. Express how you are feeling about the negativity you came in contact with. If it was something on the news that hit you hard, sit and write a list of what you can do to make a positive impact in response to it. If it was a negative situation you were involved in, take some time to journal and work through your feelings.
  5. Shift the scales and add more positive posts and images into your social media feeds. Follow inspirational accounts and motivational hashtags.

  1. #selfcare
  2. #selfcarematters
  3. #learningtolovemyself
  4. #selfcarefirst
  5. #selfcaretips
  6. #selfcare101
  7. #selflove
  8. #selflovematters
  9. #selflovefirst
  10. #loveyourself
  11. #selfcaresunday
  12. #selfcareissexy
  13. #selfcareissacred
  14. #selfcareisntselfish
  15. #selfcareeveryday
  16. #selfcareisnotselfish
  17. #selfcareeverydamnday
  18. #selfcareisimportant
  19. #selfcareempowerment
  20. #selfcaredaily
  21. #selfcareiskey
  22. #selfcareritual
  23. #selfcaresaturday
  24. #youdoyou
  25. #putyourselffirst
  26. #sundayselfcare
  27. #youareworthy
  28. #takecareofyou
  29. #selflovery
  30. #selflovejourney
  31. #selfloveproject
  32. #selfloveadvocate
  33. #selflovesunday
  34. #selfloveisdope
  35. #selflovewarrior
  36. #selfloveclub
  37. #selflovemovement
  38. #selflovechallenge
  39. #selfcaretribe
  40. #selflovequotes
  41. #selfloveisthebestlove
  42. #selfcareboss
  43. #selfcarerocks
  44. #selfcarequotes
  45. #selfcarediva
  46. #selfcarewarrior
  47. #selfcarechallenge
  48. #selflovetips
  49. #selfcareday
  50. #selflovetribe

Challenge Yourself to Pump Up Your Self-Care

Need a little boost in your Self-Care? Need to give yourself a little bit more love?

Here’s Five Challenges to give a try:

  1. 21 Day Self-Care Challenge from Brit+Co
  2. 30-Day Self Care Challenge from Brianna Fae
  3. 33 Questions That Will Boost Your Self-Care Routine from AJAEDMOND
  4. 7-Day Self Love Journaling Challenge from LiveStrong.com
  5. 30-Day Life Makeover Challenge (A Month of Affirmations for Inner Peace and Self Love) from KelseyAida

10 Posts to Read When You Need Some Advice for Life

This one is for my fellow bloggers (and everyone else too!) – Do you ever find yourself in need of a little reminder of your own best advice? When you’re feeling a little off, a little bit more vulnerable than other days and you think hey I totally wrote a blog post about that and I need a little kick in the butt…well I do so I thought “hey, this could make a fun, little round-up post”, are you with me?

When I’m feeling overly self-critical about choices I’ve made in my life: 10 Quotes that Help Me See the Silver Linings in My Mistakes

When I’m feeling a little lonely being a single gal: Why I’m Enjoying Being Single Right Now

When I’m feeling anxious or overwhelmed: 12 Ways to Deflate Anxiety Naturally

When I need to add a boost of some extra self-care into my week: 55 Self-Care Activities to Add to Your Schedule

When my schedule has gotten super chaotic: How to Plan a Healthy Schedule when you’re Super Busy

When I need a some positive inspiration: How Powerful Core Beliefs Will Guide your Life & Happiness

When I need to love myself a little more: You are a Magical, Beautiful Being: 15 Affirmations for Self-Love

When I find myself feeling a bit judgmental: Why It’s Important to Let Go of Toxic Judgments

When I need a little help getting my finances back on track: How to Build a Budget for those that Hate Budgets

When my to-do list has gotten out of control: How to Build a Better To-Do List

5 Easy Ways to Listen to More Podcasts Everyday

I have come across some really awesome, kick-butt podcasts lately…it’s all the buzz right now, and with good reason too. There are so many powerful, amazing, inspiring, empowering podcasts out there! My Castbox subscriptions list is rolling with ones I am eager to listen to – and if I could sit around all day and listen to podcasts, I’m not going to lie, I probably would most days…but time doesn’t quite allow for that. With so many distractions already in the world, in my life, it can be a bit challenging sometimes to find times to listen to podcasts. 

  1. While you’re getting ready in the morning – I love to push play and connect to my wireless speaker and listen to an empowering podcast while I’m getting ready for the day. This is such an awesome way to get pumped up and ready to slay some goals!
  2. In the car on the way to the office – I have an hour commute to the office in the morning so this is a wonderful time to get one of the longer podcasts into my day. I’ll also occasionally pop one on while I’m running errands, just hitting pause in between of being in and out of the car.
  3. While you’re cooking dinner – Instead of turning on the TV for background noise, use this time to listen to the next exciting episode!
  4. At the gym – instead of hyped up music, I use this time to get some self-improvement tips in my mind. I tend to prefer music when I’m running but I like a good podcast while I’m lifting weights.
  5. Taking a bubble bath – wind down after a long day with an inspirational story.

Some Podcasts that are on my playlist right now:

The Lively Show

The Lavendaire Lifestyle

The Mindful Kind

Awesome with Alison

Your Kick Ass Life Podcast

My Four Essentials for Beautiful, Self Spring Renewal

Spring is finally here! Which for me, means it’s time to get out of hibernation and get back at it! My Winter essentials vary a good bit from my Spring essentials. I love Spring because I love to be outside, surrounded by nature. Whether it be hitting the trails, laying by the beach or taking a stroll in the neighborhood in the sunshine, I want to be there.

Spring also means Summer is on it’s way, which means bathing suit weather. With that on my mind, I know it’s time to get back in shape and shake the Winter weight. With the busy schedule I keep, I find it can be hard sometimes to hit the gym everyday so I love being able to get a good Yoga practice in at home. MyYogaWorks has tons of classes for any level, for any time commitment which makes it perfect for me. I can squeeze in a 5 minute practice in the morning, or participate in a longer one on the weekends when I have a little bit more free time. Check their classes out with a 14 day Free Trial and see what you think!

With getting back into my Yoga Practice, I also will be getting back to running. With the weather getting warmer, I’ll be able to run the trails again by the river which leads itself to beautiful scenery, fresh air, and the wide openness of nature. I am need of some new running shoes though so those made it to the list. Found some picks on Reebok that I’m loving the color choices in.

                    

 Reebok Harmony Racer, $100                        Reebok Print Run Next, $80

Fresh, Spring Make-Up. I been getting my hair done, working towards that Summer blonde and updating my make-up bag. I recently started using Urban Decay Make-Up because I love the staying power it has, the boldness + it’s vegan and cruelty-free. I also love the products that Love Goodly has to offer. I also added some florals and citruses to my Essential Oils collection to help get me in the Springtime mood.

Spring is a renewing period of time for me. A time when I get focused on my health and beauty as I prepare for the Summer months after being tucked away during the cold, Winter months. This is one of my favorite times of year because I kind of feel like I’m reinventing myself in a way. Out with the old, in with the new. Happy Spring!

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Three Uncompromising Promises to Myself

Uncompromising

When it comes to taking care of yourself.

When it comes to your boundaries.

When it comes to your health.

This is when you should let your stubbornness shine. Making yourself a priority isn’t selfish, it’s healthy.

I will make my health a priority – learning to take time to rest.

I will say no when I need to.

I will love myself fiercely and stubbornly.

What will you choose to be uncompromising about this year?

My Typical Day vs. My Dream Typical Day

I don’t know if you’re like me but there are some times I find myself wondering what my fellow bloggers and colleagues typical days are like…what does it look like for them as they work towards their goals and dreams?

So I thought I’d share with my readers tonight what my typical day looks like…getting to know your blogger…

My Typical Day:

5:30am – wake up,hit snooze…5:35am – wake up, hit snooze…5:40am – wake up, hit snooze…5:45am – wake up, grunt, roll over, stretch, hit snooze…5:50am – wake up, hear mom’s dog running towards my room, sit up and prepare for being pounced…6am – get up, get coffee, sit on bed and practice mindfulness and by mindfulness I mean sit quietly and wait for eyes to finish opening fully…then I grab my phone and scan my work emails…this is how my typical days begin. They aren’t quite as glamorous as I’d like to report they are being a self-care blogger but hey they’re real and they aren’t so bad, they’re better than they were a few years back. Some mornings I even squeeze in a morning meditation.

My typical day at the office (after an hour commute) entails lots of conference calls, lots of emails and some campaign planning and building for the local newspapers I manage marketing for…of course each week includes some extras like event planning and form, templates and process creating among some other varieties that come with a marketing position (that also captures some customer service and retention management) – my position wears a few hats most days. I like my job, actually most days I like my job a lot. I work with some pretty awesome people, have a great boss and am able to have a good bit of creative outlet in my position as well as feed my need for project management but…it’s not my dream life, not yet.

Somewhere between 5pm and 6pm, I wrap up at the office and start on my hour trek home. So the perks of having a daily commute are: get some good thinking time in and if the radio is cooperating I can jam out for a good hour. Some days the drives are good for phone chats. The cons: it sucks up two hours of my day (which I commonly say are loss productivity – cause I’m a nerd like that) and it can be pretty tiring by the end of the week.

I get home somewhere between 6pm and 7pm usually and I sit and have dinner with my mom and we have our “gals time” watching a funny Netflix show – right now we’re on the ‘The Mysteries of Laura’ (we wrapped up ‘Grace & Frankie’ a couple of weeks ago…I’ll share my list of Netflix/Amazon shows I’ve binged through later this week!) – and catch up on our days together. My Mom usually heads up to bed about 8-8:30pm and then it becomes my time.

I grab a cup of hot tea and hook my pup up with a bully stick or tendon to get her settled. I’ll fill my diffuser with fresh water and drops of my Young Living Essential Oils to fill my room with mellow and focusing scents (aromatherapy is a daily thing for me).  Keeping up with my routines that I committed to in writing in my Commit30 Planner, I wash my face, take my vitamins (a Women’s Multi, Vitamin C, and Vitamin D are my staples), power through 30 crunches quick and my newest addition, get in some stretches my personal trainer taught me or a quick yoga routine, switch Netflix or Amazon back on and then I grab my laptop and plop on my bed…this is my time to work on my dreams and goals!

I’ll get lost in my various projects for the next couple of hours – it could be building social media posts, graphics, workshop lessons, writing blog posts, or even socializing my content. Believe it or not, the time will fly by. These things may sound a bit tedious but they are love to me…this is me building my business, working on making my dreams come true…this is where my passions are coming to life.

About 10:30-10:45pm I’ll close up my laptop and start to unwind. I like to unwind by sketching, painting and reading.

My goal is to for my pillow to hit the sack about 11pm but some nights I’ll be totally honest it’s not until about midnight by the time I’m settled.

So there’s my typical week day in my current situation…now what does my dream typical day look like? Here’s what I foresee in my future:

My (Future) Typical Day:

5am – wake up, no snooze, get up out of bed, stretch. Grab a cup of coffee and sit by the window for some mindfulness time to just sit and take in the morning. I’ll sit and record morning thoughts in my journal.

5:30am – Morning Meditation.

6am – wake my body and spirit up with a morning yoga practice.

7am – shower and get ready for the day.

7:30am – make breakfast and start with reviewing emails (blog and business emails!) and review my to do list and write out my plans and tasks for the day.

8am – start into my blog and business tasks – whatever is planned for the day – writing, workshop planning, coaching, etc.

11am – hit the gym for some weight training.

12pm – lunch.

1pm – back to some blog and business tasks.

4pm – wrap up my day. Start/Knock out some home tasks and chores.

5pm – get a run in.

6pm – Cook dinner.

7pm – Evening relaxing – maybe some tv time, some painting or sketching time, whatever strikes my fancy that evening.

9pm – Reading time.

10pm – bedtime.

I think it’s important to be able to visualize a typical dream day, realistically, what would it look like if you met your goals and made your dreams a reality? That would be – will be – my typical day – maybe that day would be by the beach, maybe some days will be full of adventure and business and blog tasks will be in the evening, but what I truly want is the freedom to make up my own day and my own schedule and do it all while serving my passions and purpose. 

What would your dream typical day look like? What will your future look like?

 

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How I Use the #LoveBlog for Self-Growth

This was my second year co-hosting the #LoveBlog. Each year I’ve discovered more about myself through the challenge and have expanded on my writing. The prompts are thought-provoking and motivating. I absolutely love reading the other participants points of views on the topics and seeing other perspectives. It is such a growth opportunity! 

Through participating in the #LoveBlog, I expand my ways of thinking and discover new views on the world, relationships and life. I am pushed to spend time for deeper thoughts and self-discovery. I am inspired to make my writing style more personal and connected. And the deadlines organize me to be more disciplined with my time.

Today I wanted to share some of my favorite posts from this year’s link up. I am looking forward to next year’s #LoveBlog!

Some of my favorite Posts from #loveblog2018 Link-Up:

Solitude; Let your toes burrow the sand from Sarah Nderi

Intent vs. Impact: The Road to Hell is Paved with Good Intentions from Belle Brita

What I love about solitude from The Blonde Pond

Balance from Sarah Nderi

When Life is Unbalanced from Belle Brita

The Six Dimensions of Wellness from The Blonde Pond

When Your Self-Care Routine Looks Different from Enduring All Things

Love & Wellness: Secure Yourself Before Assisting Others from Join Me In Transit

Self-Care: Lessons from a Chronic Illness from Belle Brita

7 Guilty Pleasures That I’m (Mostly) Not Ashamed Of from Provocative Joy

Why I Don’t Feel Guilty about the Small Pleasures in Life from Belle Brita

Is Self-Care Selfish from Mrs. Imperfect

Round-Up of My Favorite Posts (That I wrote) in the 2 years of #LoveBlog:

The Truth in the Vulnerability of a Break-Up: A Story of Loss and Finding

10 Awesome Things I Do for Health, Happiness & Balance

Setting Healthy Boundaries: Simple Tips for a Happy Life

10 Signs of a Healthy & Happy Friendship

How Indulging in Your Guilty Pleasures Keeps You Happy