How to Get Out of a Bad, Funky Day

Last week was a rough one for me…first I started off with my bicycle breaking, then I ended up with a possible broken nose, then the transmission in my car goes out…should I keep going? It was a week that I started looking up to see if there was a black cloud lingering above my head and was checking my pockets to see if I was carrying ‘bad luck’ in them…I know, you’re probably totally sensing the sarcasm and cynicism in those thoughts right? I have quite a bit of that in my personality  (truth be told haha)…but it’s that sarcasm that sometimes helps me stay positive. I started telling my friends and family they probably shouldn’t even go out to eat with me (because every place I went last week something went wrong…ha, black cloud I’m telling ya!) Well today starts a new week – woohoo – so the bad luck has to be getting weary by now. I found that I allowed myself to get a bit more wound up than I needed to be sometimes last week – I am not perfect y’all – but after I took a step back I was able to chill out quite a bit.  If you allow yourself to stay irritated and down on yourself and life then life is going to stay down, bad luck is going to keep hanging out and you’re going to stay miserable. I get it – things can stack up leaving you all kinds of frustrated and pissed off (Apologizing profusely to all my friends and family that had to listen to me whine and yell) but you’ve gotta shake it off eventually and start forcing those positive vibes back in your life. 

  1. Focus on what you have to be grateful for. – Like the whole possible broken nose thing, it was worth it, I had a killer fun day tubing in the river…and I am immensely thankful to my pal for me lending me his car so I wasn’t with no way to work and for the Universe for putting me only 6 miles from his house so I wasn’t stranded along the side of the road when my car decided no more.
  2. Remember that all things are temporary. – Bad times don’t last. Everything has an end cycle. I’m not going to be without a car forever, my nose is going to heal, the wrong food order can be fixed. The sun always comes back out!
  3. Take some time by yourself. – Process the thoughts and emotions you’re having. Let them move through you and out of your mind. Take deep breaths. Slow down and step back to let yourself calm down.
  4. Build a plan to get out of your challenges, troubles, out from under the black cloud. – My first reaction to my car breaking down was freak out mode – it’s quoted to be like $7k to fix everything…step back, write out all my options, build a plan (I’ve decided to go car shopping – it’ll cost more to fix it than it’s worth and I put a heck of a lot of miles on my car). And I’m going to admit to you that it took me a few days to get out of freak out mode…it wasn’t my plan to get a new car until next year sometime.
  5. Get back to positive thoughts. – Write them down and read them aloud to yourself if you have to. Try and list out the possibilities and opportunities that are coming out of your obstacles. For example, buying a new car gives me the opportunity to finance for lower payments and let’s me have the choice to get something with better gas mileage since I drive much more than I used to. Look for the silver linings!

10 Quotes from Maya Angelou to Motivate you to Live a Better Life

Sometimes we need a little kick in the butt. Some words to get us out of our heads and back on track. Being a quote junkie, I find this inspiration by collecting quotes and surrounding myself with them.

  1. “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”
  2. “My mission in life is not to merely survive, but to thrive, and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.”
  3. “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.”
  4. “Nothing will work unless you do.”
  5. “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”
  6. “All great achievements take time.”
  7. “Prejudice is a burden that confuses the past, threatens the future and renders the present inaccessible.”
  8. “Whatever you want to do, if you want to be great at it, you have to love it and be able to make sacrifices for it.”
  9. “I got my own back.”
  10. “Courage – you develop courage by doing small things like just as if you wouldn’t want to pick up a 100-pound weight without preparing yourself.”

10 Powerful Life Lessons That Will Make You Happier

I have been thinking of writing a post of this sort for a few years now…well since the year I turned thirty…this coming August I’ll be turning thirty-four…guess I felt I still had some lessons to learn before I was ready to share. I used to think that roadblocks, delays or procrastination were forms of failure. I thought that they were things holding us back from success. Today I sit and I ponder the idea that maybe all of those things get in our way to help us be more prepared for when the opportunity strikes. Take dating for example. I haven’t ever met anyone that doesn’t have a story of heartbreak. Heartbreaks are necessary for our growth, an opportunity to learn more about our ourselves and about what we not only want in our lives (and relationships) but also what we need. I believe that applies in several other areas of our lives as well. The failed business or career dreams that pushed us to learn new skills and new ways to prevail. I’m not the same girl I was twenty years ago, ten years ago, or even a year ago. I’ve evolved with every experience and it’s a beautiful and powerful process and I owe that to the challenges, the delays and the procrastination that gave me the time to absorb the things I needed to become this person. 

  1. Learn to love yourself. – Learn to love yourself fully, unconditionally and fiercely. I know I preach this all of the time but this was one of my greatest lessons. Love yourself the way you love others. You deserve as much love yourself as you give out to others. This doesn’t mean I don’t get disappointed with myself, it doesn’t mean that I think of myself higher than anyone else either. It means that I have to see myself in the perspective that I look at others in. It means that I have to see the good in myself everyday, it means that I have to be accepting of who I am and also take responsibility for the things I want to change and how I want to grow. It means I have to make it a priority to take care of myself – body, soul, mind and heart.
  2. Learn to forgive. – Forgive everything, everyone, every situation. Spite and anger will eat you from the inside out. We’ve all been hurt, we’ve all dated the jerk, we’ve all been slighted or been cut in front of in line, life just sucks sometimes. Sometimes it just has to come down to spitting out the famous phrase, “shit happens” and moving on.
  3. Be patient. – I suck at patience. I want instant gratification just as bad as the rest of you do. I want to awake in the morning and have an empire sitting in front of me. I want the paint on my canvas to dry immediately…but time is something we need to discover possibilities. Time is space, space allows things to grow. Be patient and allow the process to roll out.
  4. Anger is okay sometimes. – Anger can be a motivator – if and only if you learn how to process it effectively and thoroughly. Anger is not a true emotion, it is a reaction to other emotions. You become angry because you are hurt, or scared, or disappointed or whatever. Expose the true root of the anger. Use this to motivate you to make positive changes.
  5. You are responsible for yourself, not anyone else. – For what you do and for how you feel. You want to be happier? Stop blaming it on circumstances in your life…either choose a new perspective or change the circumstances.
  6. Don’t accept the mundane. – Do something you love everyday. Add your twist on everything. Make every moment magical. Love glitter? Carry the damn glitter notebook. Live your life full of color. Shake it off and laugh often.
  7. Take time to be lazy. – I am actually one of those weirdos that likes to stay busy. I don’t know what to do with myself when I don’t have a notebook full of to-do tasks and at least ten projects in motion, but you’ll burn out. I know this from experience (lots of experience) and yes I still struggle with this one but I’m getting better, Netflix helps…
  8. Stand up for yourself. – In all places (respectfully of course) but in all areas of your life. Speak your mind.
  9. Never stop learning. – I believe that we are meant to explore, experience and absorb as much information and wisdom as we can in our lives. Life is supposed to flow, we are not meant to be stagnant.
  10. Take risks. – Make a bucket list. Don’t let fear hold you back from goals, dreams, or telling someone how you feel.

 

How to Stop Making Assumptions About Yourself

You know the saying “assume makes an ass out of you and me”? How many times does this prove true? How many times do you find that your assumptions about a situation or a person turn out wrong? I’ll say 8 out 10 times…sometimes it’s not an assumption, it’s an intuition. But that’s not what I was going to chat about tonight…

Tonight I wanted to talk about how we don’t only make assumptions about situations and other people but we fall into the same trap about ourselves. We assume we’ll react to a certain situation, we assume we can’t accomplish a goal……the assumption we create in our head is manifested by fear isn’t it? Don’t we get to choose how we react in a situation? Don’t we get the chance to make a difference? Don’t we have the power to push past fear and set our minds to reach that goal?

So are assumptions actually blocks we put in place to protect ourselves from disappointment? What if you pushed through those thoughts? What if you took the power back and opened your mind, saw past the blocks we put in place?

Another place we make assumptions is in how other people view us. The best advice I ever read is “what other people think about us is none of our business”… mostly true. Physically, let that shit go. Learn to love yourself and how you look. Love your body, your mind, your heart and your soul. If you love yourself fiercely, then others will too – and more importantly the right people will love you no matter what. If you want to lose weight or get more fit, then do it for yourself and not for anyone else because that really is none of their damn business.

I find myself in thoughts of worrying about what other people think about me and how I make them feel…so I’ve started asking instead of assuming. Asking gives me the power over my mind. It becomes their responsibility to be honest with me.

My challenge to you (and to myself) is when you find you’re making an assumption, stop… do this instead:

  1. Break it down – dissect it. What concerns, thoughts, fears are driving you to this assumption?
  2. Evaluate it – Okay, are these concerns and fears justified by facts? Are they based on previous experiences and can you take steps to change the outcome?
  3. What other possible outcomes are there? Is your assumption built up of ultimate facts?
  4. If it’s proven facts that the outcome will be then it’s not an assumption…if it’s an assumption, take a deep breath and let it go.

50 Self-Care Focused Hashtags to Follow for Encouragement

I am a big believer of surrounding yourself with inspiration and motivation. Some days we need a little push to get us through the day. Social media has had a huge impact on what we are surrounded by, unfortunately sometimes it can inundate us with negativity but we can take control of it to help skew what we interact with on a daily basis.

  1. Unfollow folks on social media that are constantly posting negativity. 
  2. Limit how much you watch the news. It’s important to stay up to date on what’s happening in the world and in your community but manage how often you’re taking it in. Choose one time per day to watch/read the news.
  3. Control how you are obtaining the news. Focus on using reliable media companies to get your news verses taking it in on social media sites. If you see something on social media, research for a fact filled story to follow up on what you saw.
  4. Express how you are feeling about the negativity you came in contact with. If it was something on the news that hit you hard, sit and write a list of what you can do to make a positive impact in response to it. If it was a negative situation you were involved in, take some time to journal and work through your feelings.
  5. Shift the scales and add more positive posts and images into your social media feeds. Follow inspirational accounts and motivational hashtags.

  1. #selfcare
  2. #selfcarematters
  3. #learningtolovemyself
  4. #selfcarefirst
  5. #selfcaretips
  6. #selfcare101
  7. #selflove
  8. #selflovematters
  9. #selflovefirst
  10. #loveyourself
  11. #selfcaresunday
  12. #selfcareissexy
  13. #selfcareissacred
  14. #selfcareisntselfish
  15. #selfcareeveryday
  16. #selfcareisnotselfish
  17. #selfcareeverydamnday
  18. #selfcareisimportant
  19. #selfcareempowerment
  20. #selfcaredaily
  21. #selfcareiskey
  22. #selfcareritual
  23. #selfcaresaturday
  24. #youdoyou
  25. #putyourselffirst
  26. #sundayselfcare
  27. #youareworthy
  28. #takecareofyou
  29. #selflovery
  30. #selflovejourney
  31. #selfloveproject
  32. #selfloveadvocate
  33. #selflovesunday
  34. #selfloveisdope
  35. #selflovewarrior
  36. #selfloveclub
  37. #selflovemovement
  38. #selflovechallenge
  39. #selfcaretribe
  40. #selflovequotes
  41. #selfloveisthebestlove
  42. #selfcareboss
  43. #selfcarerocks
  44. #selfcarequotes
  45. #selfcarediva
  46. #selfcarewarrior
  47. #selfcarechallenge
  48. #selflovetips
  49. #selfcareday
  50. #selflovetribe

Challenge Yourself to Pump Up Your Self-Care

Need a little boost in your Self-Care? Need to give yourself a little bit more love?

Here’s Five Challenges to give a try:

  1. 21 Day Self-Care Challenge from Brit+Co
  2. 30-Day Self Care Challenge from Brianna Fae
  3. 33 Questions That Will Boost Your Self-Care Routine from AJAEDMOND
  4. 7-Day Self Love Journaling Challenge from LiveStrong.com
  5. 30-Day Life Makeover Challenge (A Month of Affirmations for Inner Peace and Self Love) from KelseyAida

10 Posts to Read When You Need Some Advice for Life

This one is for my fellow bloggers (and everyone else too!) – Do you ever find yourself in need of a little reminder of your own best advice? When you’re feeling a little off, a little bit more vulnerable than other days and you think hey I totally wrote a blog post about that and I need a little kick in the butt…well I do so I thought “hey, this could make a fun, little round-up post”, are you with me?

When I’m feeling overly self-critical about choices I’ve made in my life: 10 Quotes that Help Me See the Silver Linings in My Mistakes

When I’m feeling a little lonely being a single gal: Why I’m Enjoying Being Single Right Now

When I’m feeling anxious or overwhelmed: 12 Ways to Deflate Anxiety Naturally

When I need to add a boost of some extra self-care into my week: 55 Self-Care Activities to Add to Your Schedule

When my schedule has gotten super chaotic: How to Plan a Healthy Schedule when you’re Super Busy

When I need a some positive inspiration: How Powerful Core Beliefs Will Guide your Life & Happiness

When I need to love myself a little more: You are a Magical, Beautiful Being: 15 Affirmations for Self-Love

When I find myself feeling a bit judgmental: Why It’s Important to Let Go of Toxic Judgments

When I need a little help getting my finances back on track: How to Build a Budget for those that Hate Budgets

When my to-do list has gotten out of control: How to Build a Better To-Do List

5 Easy Ways to Listen to More Podcasts Everyday

I have come across some really awesome, kick-butt podcasts lately…it’s all the buzz right now, and with good reason too. There are so many powerful, amazing, inspiring, empowering podcasts out there! My Castbox subscriptions list is rolling with ones I am eager to listen to – and if I could sit around all day and listen to podcasts, I’m not going to lie, I probably would most days…but time doesn’t quite allow for that. With so many distractions already in the world, in my life, it can be a bit challenging sometimes to find times to listen to podcasts. 

  1. While you’re getting ready in the morning – I love to push play and connect to my wireless speaker and listen to an empowering podcast while I’m getting ready for the day. This is such an awesome way to get pumped up and ready to slay some goals!
  2. In the car on the way to the office – I have an hour commute to the office in the morning so this is a wonderful time to get one of the longer podcasts into my day. I’ll also occasionally pop one on while I’m running errands, just hitting pause in between of being in and out of the car.
  3. While you’re cooking dinner – Instead of turning on the TV for background noise, use this time to listen to the next exciting episode!
  4. At the gym – instead of hyped up music, I use this time to get some self-improvement tips in my mind. I tend to prefer music when I’m running but I like a good podcast while I’m lifting weights.
  5. Taking a bubble bath – wind down after a long day with an inspirational story.

Some Podcasts that are on my playlist right now:

The Lively Show

The Lavendaire Lifestyle

The Mindful Kind

Awesome with Alison

Your Kick Ass Life Podcast

My Four Essentials for Beautiful, Self Spring Renewal

Spring is finally here! Which for me, means it’s time to get out of hibernation and get back at it! My Winter essentials vary a good bit from my Spring essentials. I love Spring because I love to be outside, surrounded by nature. Whether it be hitting the trails, laying by the beach or taking a stroll in the neighborhood in the sunshine, I want to be there.

Spring also means Summer is on it’s way, which means bathing suit weather. With that on my mind, I know it’s time to get back in shape and shake the Winter weight. With the busy schedule I keep, I find it can be hard sometimes to hit the gym everyday so I love being able to get a good Yoga practice in at home. MyYogaWorks has tons of classes for any level, for any time commitment which makes it perfect for me. I can squeeze in a 5 minute practice in the morning, or participate in a longer one on the weekends when I have a little bit more free time. Check their classes out with a 14 day Free Trial and see what you think!

With getting back into my Yoga Practice, I also will be getting back to running. With the weather getting warmer, I’ll be able to run the trails again by the river which leads itself to beautiful scenery, fresh air, and the wide openness of nature. I am need of some new running shoes though so those made it to the list. Found some picks on Reebok that I’m loving the color choices in.

                    

 Reebok Harmony Racer, $100                        Reebok Print Run Next, $80

Fresh, Spring Make-Up. I been getting my hair done, working towards that Summer blonde and updating my make-up bag. I recently started using Urban Decay Make-Up because I love the staying power it has, the boldness + it’s vegan and cruelty-free. I also love the products that Love Goodly has to offer. I also added some florals and citruses to my Essential Oils collection to help get me in the Springtime mood.

Spring is a renewing period of time for me. A time when I get focused on my health and beauty as I prepare for the Summer months after being tucked away during the cold, Winter months. This is one of my favorite times of year because I kind of feel like I’m reinventing myself in a way. Out with the old, in with the new. Happy Spring!

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Three Uncompromising Promises to Myself

Uncompromising

When it comes to taking care of yourself.

When it comes to your boundaries.

When it comes to your health.

This is when you should let your stubbornness shine. Making yourself a priority isn’t selfish, it’s healthy.

I will make my health a priority – learning to take time to rest.

I will say no when I need to.

I will love myself fiercely and stubbornly.

What will you choose to be uncompromising about this year?