How to Recover When You’re Burnt Out

After catching the sick bug going around this past week, I landed myself home sick to recover a couple of days…I could have pushed through but then I would have landed myself in burnout mode so I tucked away on Thursday and stayed in bed! Oh the awful burnout, we’ve all been there at some time or another. When I go into burnout mode everything shuts down, my mind goes blank, my body gets weak, and my life becomes a bit of a blur…so recovery is a must! 

Today, I’ve decided to take a Selfish Saturday! I slept in, am still in my sweats and tee, binged on a kick-butt Netflix series called The OA (if you have an ounce of spirituality in your bones, you’ll be into this one! Okay, well it hooked me anyways lol – read between the lines in this one!), and I’ve eaten about a whole cookie cake – yum! Today is my lazy lazy day!

Sometimes we need some extra sleep, sometimes we need we need a day to be lazy, or a night out with friends to let loose. Burnout happens to the best of us but what’s important is that you take care of yourself so you can get back to your grind and keep working towards your goals. Today was my lazy day, re-energizing myself to tackle my tasks tomorrow. 

 

How to Build Self-Care into Your Lunch Break

Woohoo, rocked the morning! The mid-day mark has arrived, the work day is half over…this is usually where I start wearing down…don’t rush through lunch to barely slide through the afternoon. Keep your productivity up and stay feeling good through the whole day with these simple Self-Care routines during your lunch break.

How to stay pumped all through your work day:

1. Eat a healthy lunch – choose foods that are energizing. Lay off the heavy carbs that can make you tired.

2. Take a walk – get moving. If you can’t go outside, take a walk around the office.

3. Eat your lunch away from the computer – go to the break room, go out to restaurant, sit at a picnic table – separate your lunch from your work.

4. Drink water – staying hydrated will help keep you energized.

5. Meditate for 5 minutes – (or longer) – clear your mind so that you are level and prepared to manage the second half of your day.

6. Listen to an inspirational podcast or read – escape and re-motivate yourself.

7. Text a loved one – connect, communicate – bring the love into your day.

8. Check your to-do list, cross off what you’ve accomplished – this does two things: it reaffirms you of what you have completed already for the day and it mentally prepares you to plan for what still needs to be completed.

9. Watch a funny or cute cat (or dog or bird…) video – let go, laugh, de-stress.

10. Chat casually with a co-worker – but not about work! – the purpose of this is human connection, to relax, not to stress about the day…or vent to a friend if you really need to, get it off your chest so you can move on with your day.

The goal is to come back from your lunch break feeling refreshed and re-energized so you can rock your afternoon too!

Need some more inspiration? Check out these reads:

10 Benefits of Walking

How To Stay Motivated & My Top TED Talks for Motivation

How Meditation Benefits You

Being Powerful & Inspired: My Quote Wall & Making The Bed

I believe in surrounding myself with inspiration and motivation that fuels me throughout my day. I build my bedroom with the same idea. Every task I complete I want to inspire me…including making my bed… I am given a gift every morning that I awake. I am given the ability to go make my day any way I want it to be, the opportunity to make it an amazing day. I will admit some mornings are tough, sometimes the bed is too warm and the day is too cold, or I’m too tired and I know a long day awaits me, but each day I push myself out of bed.

I’ve been spending some time listening to Motivational Podcasts Every Woman Must Hear by TED Talks and some of the things I hear seem to be speaking right to me. It’s amazing how the Universe will put the message we need to hear right in front of us, all we have to do is be open to receive that message. One of the things that keep sticking out to me is that we can’t accomplish anything if we don’t set out to do it. I listened to one in particular on the way to work today that has really been ringing in my head  How To Stop Screwing Yourself Over . She speaks of how we condition ourselves to think everything is fine even when we aren’t satisfied. I spent the last year learning how to be more accepting of things in life, things beyond my control. I loved that I learned a great amount of patience through that and I learned how to not be angry (or not to hold onto anger) and that I believe has made me such a stronger and happier person but I think I also allowed myself to become complacent in some ways and that is a block. There is a difference between being accepting and rolling over and just letting things be. We must learn to create a balance between the two – allow ourselves to accept what we cannot change but to push ourselves to change what we can. Go after what you want in life!

Well now that I’ve gotten a bit off track in my tangent of motivation and podcasts… I made a decision to surround myself with things and thoughts of inspiration and motivation a while back and I began to build my quote wall. My quote wall lies right behind my bed. Each morning that I push myself out of my warm cozy bed (winter is not really my thing) I in turn get to make my bed and inhale in all the beautiful words I have put among myself. It is invigorating and amazing how my eyes always seem to fall upon the right quote at the right time. Some days, in those moments that I may be feeling challenged, I will come sit on my bed facing the wall and just breathe and let the quotes flow into me. My quotes come from all over, an eclectic collection for each day, for each challenge, that spoke to me in any such moment…

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

“I’m scared of failure all the time, but I’m not scared enough to stop trying.” ~ Ronda Rousey

“Create whatever causes a revolution in your heart.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert

“Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” ~ Dalai Lama

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up with more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never have enough.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

“Go for your dreams, and don’t let anything hold you back. Keep going no matter what it is you want to do in life.” ~ Layla Ali

How To Keep Joy In Your Life

My ex says to me, “You just want to go and be seen all the time.” His comment really irked me. It made me feel as if he was implying I was a show-off which doesn’t really fit my personality or my values and it bugged me. The comment stuck with me, it kept nagging at me and I kept analyzing it over and over. Driving home from the grocery store, laying down to sleep at night – I’d think of it. Such a simple comment that had become ever-so annoying to me, sticking in my mind. Last night it hit me, he was right – in a way.

I do want to be seen, and I want to be recognized not because I’m proud but because I eagerly want to be a part of this world. We should all want that, being together brings us joy. We were created to connect and to unite and to help each other. And yeah, I want a part in that, a chance to be part of something great, a part of our great humanity. But to understand that I had to change my perspective of his comment. After thinking that out I made a list of my rules for keeping joy in my life around the thought of how we should be living in this world, as part of this world, rules I live by every day. If you want to be truly joyful, you need to shine your light where ever you go, let that bright ray of sunshine from in you fall upon the world! 

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5 Powerful Steps to Reaching Your Dreams & Crushing Your Goals

As you get to know new people, you will find that we each hold our own story of tragedy and sorrow, we each have experienced challenges and trials that have helped shape us into the people we have become (or are becoming). Some stories are longer and more intense than others and some are shorter and more gentle but we each have our own. At the end of each story though, isn’t about what had happened, it’s what we chose to learn, what we chose to make of it all, what we chose to become from it. I recently met a beautiful woman through a Facebook Group named Kylie Travers, she has quite the story to tell, facing many challenges in the past several years, challenges that could have sent her spiraling down but instead she took her obstacles and used them to propel herself to a multiple international award-winning CEO, author, speaker and charity ambassador. When I reached out to her to guest post for www.dofivethingsaday.com, to share her story with all of us, she didn’t come back with a list of all of her challenges, she came back with a focus on action steps on how she became who she was meant to be. It reminded me of how strong we can be, on how if we choose to control and shape our perception then we can make anything possible. 

The past few years have been some of the worst and some of the most successful years of my life. I have gone from a homeless single mother of two to multiple international award winning CEO, author, speaker and charity ambassador, in under 4 years. During this time I also overcame Borderline Personality Disorder, started a new relationship, had paralysis issues for 7 months, a cancer scare, a few surgeries, moved across the country and helped my daughters overcome their learning disorders which were classed as extreme.

Despite facing multiple obstacles, I have a life better than anything I could ever have imagined. Instead of focusing on ‘my story’ (which if you want to know more details about, you can find on my site), I want to focus on what I did to turn my obstacles into opportunities.

1.) Have an attitude of gratitude
As hard as it is when you face issues in your life, being grateful changes your perspective. Find something to be grateful for every day. I keep a gratitude diary where I write in it 3 things I am grateful for every day. Keeping an attitude of gratitude helps maintain a more positive outlook on life, which assists in problem solving the issues you face.

A week after my daughters and I left their dad (my ex husband), we were robbed of everything in our new home, including my underwear. At first, I broke down. It felt like too much to handle with what I had already faced leaving an abusive relationship, being stalked and assaulted.

I managed to pull myself together then wrote a gratitude list outing what I could be grateful for in that situation, what lessons I could learn from it and what opportunities might come as a result of being robbed. I managed to come up with quite a few things including the fact we were not home when it happened, it was only stuff and we had insurance, I hated everything I owned because it was remnants of my marriage, now I was able to replace it with insurance money instead of having to save up my own money and replace things as I could etc. As you can see, once I got into that frame of mind it became easier.

2.) Use affirmations and positive quotes
I used to roll my eyes when people suggested it, until I found myself crumpled in a heap on the bathroom floor sobbing my eyes out and the only thing that seemed to calm me down was repeating my favorite quote “I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” by Carl Jung. I needed to believe that was true. I needed to know that despite being at rock bottom – abused, robbed and homeless, I could change my life.

I had my favourite quotes stamped on some bracelets for my wrists. I wrote quotes that inspired me in permanent marker on my mirrors (it wipes off with window cleaner) and I kept them as screen-savers on my devices. These constant reminders helped shape my thinking.

3.) Be clear on where you want to go
I have always had goals, but in this situation I got more strategic about it. I worked out my core values, created a personal mission statement, set goals in 7 key areas of my life (family, finances, career/business, travel, health, personal development and organisation), then using those goals I create a vision board.

I would spend time every day envisioning what my life would be like, looking at my vision board and actively taking steps to get me closer to my goals. All the planning in the world will do nothing if you don’t take action. Get clear on where you want to be, write your plan and go after it with pure determination.

4.) Meditation

I allocated at least 20 minutes a day to meditation, which I still do. It relaxes you, makes it easier to think and I notice it on days I don’t meditate. I struggle, have less energy and can’t think as clear if I don’t meditate in the morning. Not all mediation is about sitting there and saying ‘Om’. Find the method that works for you and implement it into your daily routine.

5.) Take care of yourself

I allowed myself to get too busy and overwhelmed running a business, doing public speaking, rushing from event to event, taking my kids to school, therapy and extra curricular activities. I said yes to everything anyone asked me to do and in the end my body decided I couldn’t continue. One morning I was getting ready and my back seized up. I thought I had aggravated an old spinal injury and asked my very new boyfriend to take my kids to school, assuming I would be ok the next day. I was unable to walk properly for 7 months. If I stood up or spoke at an event it required nerve blockers, pain killers and resulted in 4 days in bed after the event with excruciating pain and paralysis.

During this time a test came back positive for the cancer my mother died from. After a surgery it turns out I have a rare condition that presents itself the same way and I have to have annual surgery. I had surgical treatments for my spine and the whole year was stressful. My new boyfriend was my carer and immediately a dad to my kids instead of us being able to get to know each other slowly.

By not taking care of myself, I nearly ruined us financially (he was now unable to work as he had to care for me, and I barely worked because of the pain and issues) and nearly destroyed the relationship completely. I was unable to be the mum I had been and that broke my heart, seeing my kids play and having them be sad I couldn’t do things with them anymore.

Put yourself first. Exercise, eat right, get enough sleep, ask for help when you need it, outsource the cleaning or anything else you can to free up your time. Life is too short, don’t make it harder on yourself by overwhelming yourself.

You can achieve anything you put your mind to. How have you turned obstacles into opportunities?

Bio:

Kylie Travers went from homeless single mum of two daughters because of domestic violence to multiple international award winning CEO, author, speaker, marketing specialist and charity advocate in the space of a couple of years. Through all her work she focuses on sharing practical advice on ways to make and save money, turn your obstacles into opportunities, practice gratitude, travel and create opportunities to improve your life and excel in the areas you want to.

Her areas of expertise are marketing, social media, blogging, finance and travel. Her company specialises in digital marketing with influencer programs, marketing strategies, training and consultations. Personally, Kylie likes to focus on public speaking, freelance writing or consults around finance, travel, lifestyle or blogging, along with being actively involved in charities that help end homelessness and domestic violence.

As a result, she has been the recipient of many awards, including The Plutus Foundation Service Award for 2015, Finalist Young Australian Of The Year, ACT, 2015 and winning Best International Personal Finance Blog twice, among other awards.


You can find out more about here at http://www.kylietravers.com.au

Social links: 

http://www.facebook.com/KylieTraversAus

http://www.twitter.com/KylieTravers_au

http://www.instagram.com/KylieTravers_au

 

*all images used in this post of ownership of Kylie Travers.

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5 Tips to Staying Motivated this Holiday Season

Staying motivated during the holiday season can be tough, especially if we have some extra days off. I find myself wanting to loaf around in my pj’s and fuzzy socks, staying curled up with a cup of hot chocolate and watching Christmas movies all day long…but is that in our best interest? Life gets hectic during this time of year, our to-do lists get longer and we can fall behind…making us tired and somewhat lazy. While I am a big advocate of taking some time to rest and to recoup, do you want to spend all your vacation days doing that? And hey, if you do, all the power to you, but don’t get stuck in the unmotivated loop! I reached out to a pal of mine from the beautiful Sydney, Australia to see what she does to keep motivated during the jovial season. Though, I don’t get the opportunity of a holiday beach day this year, she has some awesome ideas on how to stay merry and motivated! 

How to Stay Motivated During the Holidays

We are officially on the countdown to Christmas! Which means food, presents and relaxation. Christmas and holidays automatically calls for a relaxing lie on the beach or swim in the waves (if you’re down under) or a warm cup of hot chocolate by the fire (if you’re up over!). But it’s so easy for us to take advantage of the few days we have with ourselves that we tend to lose motivation. I’m 100% guilty of this – all I want to do is sleep in till midday and eat myself silly till the new year. But then there’s that alarm bell that goes off in my mind – New Year’s Resolutions! We all want the better part of ourselves to start when the new year does, so here are my top 5 tips to get motivated during the holidays!

  1. Don’t put your gym membership on hold! Yes, that’s right. Just because you have a few days off, doesn’t mean you should place your gym membership on hold. You should actually do the opposite and book in some one on one personal training sessions with all this free time you have! It’s so easy to make excuses as to why you can’t go work out during the festive season. From last minute Christmas shopping to spending time with the family. But putting in the effort to work out just 3 times a week for an hour will make all the difference. The way I see it? The more I work out, the more I’ll be able to eat – and we ALL love to eat, especially during Christmas. So get out there and get in the zone!
  2. Don’t sleep in till 3pm. I can already hear all the cries and screams from you guys. I LOVE my sleep – I could sleep all day and night if I had the chance. But you know that feeling when you wake up from a big night out and you’re totally confused as to what planet you’re on? That feeling can suck! When I was a kid, holidays meant I could sleep late and wake up even later, but this changed ever since I took on my 20’s. Lets just say, I sleep earlier than my mum! Train your body to wake up before 9am on your days off. Trust me, you’ll feel a lot better when you know you have more hours in the day!
  3. Take on a new hobby. This is a fun one! When December hits, I love hitting Kmart stores and buying a bunch of Christmas decorations. My hobby throughout the festive season is decorating my house – from pillow cases to table cloths, from solar lightings in the front yard to wreaths for the door. Taking on a new hobby creates excitement to start something new and learn a different skill!
  4. Give your room/home a makeover. When a new year starts, most of us opt for a new hairstyle or colour, new outfits and new bedsheets. I love giving my room a little makeover. You don’t have to go extravagant! Simply buying a new indoor plant or changing up your picture frames will give your space a sense of difference. This will also keep you busy during your free time!
  5. Spend time with your family and friends. This is probably one that doesn’t need to be said! But it’s so important to remember that Christmas is a time to share – so share your time with the people you love most. Make a gingerbread house or help cook an amazing Christmas feast. Gather round to watch a Christmas movie (Home Alone is my personal favourite!).

And there you have it! My top 5 tips to stay motivated throughout the holidays – they’re not hard to do at all and will definitely keep looking forward to something during your time off. Happy Holidays! ~ Veronica

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10 Healthy Nighttime Habits for a Good Night’s Sleep

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  1. Wash your face. Remove all the make-up and oils from your face and hydrate your skin with a lightweight moisturizer.
  2. Drink a glass of water. Drinking a glass of water before bed helps cycle toxins out of your body.
  3. No electronics half an hour before bed. Turn off the tv, put down your phone. Create quite time, take away the extra stimulation to your brain.
  4. Light an incense or candle. Calming scents can help us relax. Pick a cozy scent such as Tranquility or Lavender.
  5. Write down your to-do list for tomorrow. Get it off your mind so that when you lay down to sleep the thoughts do not continue to race through. Need some tips on building your to-do list – check out How To Build A Better To-Do List.
  6. Journal or Brain Dump. This has similar effects as writing your to-do list down. It gets all the racing thoughts out of your mind and onto paper. This gives you a chance to process the day so that you can let go of your worries for the night. Write about your grand ideas for the next day, write down your sorrows, whatever is on your mind, let them transfer to your journal.
  7. Read. I always have multiple books started. Fantasy to escape reality, Self-Growth books to strengthen my soul. Currently I’m reading “Altar of Bones” by Philip Carter and “You are a Badass” by Jen Sincero.
  8. Yoga. This can be as simple as one pose. Legs up on the Wall is a great one for before bed – Legs Up The Wall Pose
  9. Meditate. Meditating prior to bed helps clear thoughts and worry out of your mind so that you can have a restful sleep. Check out How Meditation Benefits You for why it’s the bomb and some ways I work meditation into each of my days.
  10. Keep calming and healing crystals by your bed. I know this one may be a little too voodoo for some but I find crystal therapy very healing and enlightening. Choose crystals such as amethyst and rose quartz for self-love and emotional healing.
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10 Simple Morning Self-Care Routines for an Amazing Day

The start of the day is the moment when we stage how our day is going to roll out. We can decide in those moments if we are going to make it a good day. Set yourself up for success by practicing self-care rituals to strengthen yourself for anything the day may bring.

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  1. Before you get out of bed, take three deep breaths. Clear your mind of any lingering thoughts before getting up. My rule is that I do not get up until I have breathed and let go and cleared my mind. I tell myself that I refuse to take negativity into my new day.
  2. Get out of bed and stretch. Stand tall and reach up high, elongating your body as much as you can. Reach back and pull your body into an arch, then lean forward and touch the floor. Or do a Morning Yoga Routine – https://yogainternational.com/article/view/graceful-morning-flow
  3. Make your bed. Tidy up your room. Create a clean area for a clean mind, an open mind.
  4. Make a cup of tea. Tea has been proven to be calming and cleansing. Creating a calm atmosphere prepares you for a calm day.
  5. Review your planner. See what is on your agenda for the day, create your thoughts around planning for an efficient and productive day.
  6. Read an affirmation or a Mantra. Read it aloud to yourself, write it down. Here are some I use for my Self-Care:
  7. “May my heart be brave, my mind fierce, and my spirit free.”
  8. “My soul is ready to live the life of my dreams.” ~ Sarah Prout
  9. “Special things are about to happen for me and I am ready to allow it.”
  10. “I am focused and persistent. I will never quit.”
  11. “When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.” ~ Wayne Dyer
  12. Be still and just listen. After reading your mantra, take a moment to process it. Listen to the sounds around you, whether it is rain falling, birds singing, or cars bustling by on a busy street, just listen, find peace in the morning sounds.
  13. Write down three things you are grateful for. Write them in your planner so that you can be reminded of them throughout the day.
  14. Give your pup or your kitty a hug. Or child, or parent, or significant other, or your best friend… Feel the unconditional love they have for you fill you. Let that unconditional love stay with you all day. When you become frustrated, think of them.
  15. Before you walk out the door, say to yourself, “I’ve got this. I will make today amazing. No matter what today brings, I can handle it.” Say this as many times as you need to today because you do have this. You are strong enough to handle anything, you just have to believe it.

So go out into the world today and have a wonderful day, not because of what happens to you, but because you choose to.

How To Use Your Emotions To Heal

 I take pride in being the happy and always optimistic one in the bunch. So much pride that I find myself not allowing myself to feel hurt, feel sad, or to feel angry. But being optimistic doesn’t mean we shouldn’t feel other emotions. Being optimistic means seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, it means knowing fully in your heart that it will be okay, no matter what you’re facing. We need to feel all of our emotions. We need to allow them to process, to run their course, and to pass through us. Each emotion has its purpose. Each part of our mind’s, our heart’s, our soul’s healing. If we skip moving through them the process cannot ever fully complete. Being sad or being angry doesn’t mean I am a downer, it doesn’t mean I’ve lost hope, it’s just what I’m feeling.  Relish each emotion in its moment, feel it deeply in your soul, and then let it go. Let it drift off. And as you travel through each emotion, remind yourself, “Everything is temporary. This shall too pass”, and then everything will be okay.

Sit in your room and scream, let the tears roll  down your face, laugh so hard your stomach hurts, whatever it is, just let it out. And then breathe and be free.

 

How a Clean Space Helps Create a Clear Mind

This morning I awoke with a cluttered mind, filled with worry and muddled thoughts. I fought to clear my mind, to push all my racing thoughts away. A huge part of me just wanted to stay in bed today. We all have those days, and some of those days it’s best to just stay in bed, today wasn’t one of those. I knew I needed to get up and do something to help organize my thoughts. I’ve found that sometimes the only way we can start to declutter our mind is to declutter our physical space. This creates more breathable space for ourselves, it starts a process of thinking that we need to be in. So I set to work on my shelves, my dresser, and my many stacks of mail and papers. As I moved through each stack of items I found myself becoming calmer, my thoughts slowing down. Maybe it was my refocus or maybe it was the physical activity of clearing through things but it was transforming into a therapy for me. I needed to create space for my creativity to flow and for my mind to find a peaceful spot. An organized space helps us feel more in control, it empties out physical areas of chaos allowing our minds to transform that energy inward. 

I was able to make this space mine again and in doing that it presented satisfaction and power back to me. This power gave me the opportunity to take control of my thoughts. I spent the rest of the day sketching, painting, and coloring allowing my emotions to flow out of me through artistry. This helped me remain calm throughout the day, even though I had worries floating in my mind, it gave me time to process my racing thoughts. We can many times find ourselves overwhelmed with thoughts, stress, and worry and we in turn result to ‘stuck mode’, this is how I felt when I woke today. I didn’t know what to do with everything that was on my mind. I needed to find a way to work through it physically and to make myself move. Productivity can be therapeutic. For me today was about clearing space. Since I was struggling to clear my mind, I started by clearing my physical space creating an environment to move forward in. Sometimes we need to start on the outside to work towards inner peace. 

“Clutter is not just the stuff on your floor – It’s anything that stands between you and the life you want to be living.” ~ Peter Walsh