How to Use a Quarter Life Crisis as Positive Motivation

So I was going to write about my favorite Netflix and Amazon shows tonight but I’m not…I’m still going to totally write about them (because Netflix binging is seriously like one of my favorite things) but I’m going to write about it another night. Tonight I want to talk about my mid-mid life crisis. Like seriously, I want to quit my job, shirk all responsibilities and runaway to a little remote beach village.

Realistically for me better titled as what refers to as my 30’s-Life Crisis. My mind is filled with wonderful, crazy ideas of things I want in my life still. But I know I’m coming to a point where I may run out of time to do them. I am restless. I want more out of my life. I’m not unhappy overall but I am feeling a bit stale, not at my best yet. I don’t feel as if I’ve reached my full potential. Honestly, I’m starting to feel the sting of getting older. I am craving something bigger, some more magic in my life. Perfectly quoted from, “You’re young because you still dream big. You’re old because failing is no longer an option”.

According to an article on, this time in our lives “gives rise to a desire to change, finding an exit plan from the current situation, and rebuilding your life”. Well that’s pretty fitting for my life. When I turned thirty, I started focusing on making life changes to lead a happier life. Over the past few years I’ve made substantial changes to routines, wellness practices and my perspective on life. I’ve hit the road running kicking into this year by making launching my business and growing my website a top priority. I’ve put my dreams in very close view to work towards making them a reality. Daily I think of my motivators and how I want my life to look like in five years or even in the next year. What I want to be doing, how I want to feel and who I want to be around.

I recently read that many people go through a mid-life crisis because they don’t go after fulfilling their dreams. I am only halfway there. I have my moments when I think about how I wished I did things differently in my twenties and how maybe I could be sitting with my toes in the sand today instead of working the 9-10 hour office days I do now but would I have a different frame of mind if  I would have gone down a different path? Would I have still learned the lessons I did along the way? In the end of my thought process I realize I wouldn’t be where I am today with the definite conviction of what I want in my future.

I’m choosing to use my mid-mid life crisis as a wake up call, as motivation to go after my dreams and my goals. I’m choosing to look at it as I’ve learned many lessons on my journey (and still have more yet to learn) and those will help me be successful. A crisis can be an opportunity to prevail.

  1. I made a list of all the things I love to do and the goals I still want to accomplish, things I want more of in my life.
  2. I made a Bucket List. Actually I made a lot of bucket lists, I created a ‘Bucket List Notebook’ that can keep growing!
  3. I created a game plan. And I researched what I needed to do to accomplish my goals.
  4. I created a rough time line – allowing some flexibility to bend with the curve balls life throws you.
  5. I started with one step…and I keep working at it every day.

“Follow your passion. The rest will attend to itself. If I can do it, anybody can do it. It’s possible. And it’s your turn. So go for it. It’s never too late to become what you always wanted to be in the first place.” ~ J. Michael Straczynski

7 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself

What does it mean to complete self-discovery?

Wikipedia states: the term “journey of self-discovery” refers to a travel, or series of events whereby a person attempts to determine how they feel about spiritual issues and priorities.

Just a month ago I viewed the world from a different shade. I was a workaholic, spending 10-12 hours a day in the office and then at least another 6 hours out of the office worrying about work. I felt stressed out, exhausted, and even overwhelmed some days with life in general. I sacrificed time with my family, missed my son’s sports games, and barely had a social life to go to work and still not live up to the corporate set standards. My job had become my life, and it was sucking me dry.  I was the girl that kept telling herself that if I kept working like a dog I could earn enough money to eventually be able to break off and do something I love…let’s face it, that was just a vicious cycle. I’ll be turning 31 this August and I was still where I was two years ago career wise. My blog had sat inactive for seven months and I hadn’t posted anything in for months either. I had become stale. Then I lost my job…

This was a revelation for me, a release from an imprisonment I had put myself in many years ago. The opportunities are endless for me now. I have the chance to make a career change, a spiritual change, and to change myself. During my first few weeks “off” I did a lot of reading, inspirational and motivational reading, I started blogging again, I started practicing yoga, I visited my Grandfather more, I made time for connecting with people…I started redesigning my life. I started my “journey of self-discovery”.

Everyone’s journey of self-discovery will be different, just as we are each individual and unique. I believe that self-discovery, self-reflection, and meditation are truly components we need to complete in order to really find happiness and our true path. I feel this is a constant process, the world will always be throwing us twists and turns but if we can really get in touch with ourselves than we can lead an open and fulfilling life no matter what comes at us, and learn from each experience.

I visited a site called and they give you specific questions to ask yourself, dig deep and find your inner truth and purpose kind of questions.

  1. “Who am I?” –  what makes you unique, what defines you as an individual?
  2. “What do I need right now more than anything else?” – are you truly taking care of yourself? Spiritually, Physically, Emotionally?
  3. What meaning can I draw from this experience?” – what is the silver lining? What is the lesson from the challenge?
  4. What feeling do I most want to have in my life?” “What do I want to be doing more of in my life?” “What do I want to be doing less of in my life?” – what do I keep doing or keep in my life that doesn’t make me happy, what am I lacking that would make me happy?
  5. What am I resisting, or attaching to?”
  6. “What are my gifts? How can I share them with the world?”
  7. “How can I celebrate each day, or the moments of my life?”

Sit down and ask yourself these questions, are your answers in line with how you are living your life? Mine weren’t, but I’m changing that.

Knowledge comes from study, Wisdom comes from experience.