How to Get Out of a Bad, Funky Day

Last week was a rough one for me…first I started off with my bicycle breaking, then I ended up with a possible broken nose, then the transmission in my car goes out…should I keep going? It was a week that I started looking up to see if there was a black cloud lingering above my head and was checking my pockets to see if I was carrying ‘bad luck’ in them…I know, you’re probably totally sensing the sarcasm and cynicism in those thoughts right? I have quite a bit of that in my personality  (truth be told haha)…but it’s that sarcasm that sometimes helps me stay positive. I started telling my friends and family they probably shouldn’t even go out to eat with me (because every place I went last week something went wrong…ha, black cloud I’m telling ya!) Well today starts a new week – woohoo – so the bad luck has to be getting weary by now. I found that I allowed myself to get a bit more wound up than I needed to be sometimes last week – I am not perfect y’all – but after I took a step back I was able to chill out quite a bit.  If you allow yourself to stay irritated and down on yourself and life then life is going to stay down, bad luck is going to keep hanging out and you’re going to stay miserable. I get it – things can stack up leaving you all kinds of frustrated and pissed off (Apologizing profusely to all my friends and family that had to listen to me whine and yell) but you’ve gotta shake it off eventually and start forcing those positive vibes back in your life. 

  1. Focus on what you have to be grateful for. – Like the whole possible broken nose thing, it was worth it, I had a killer fun day tubing in the river…and I am immensely thankful to my pal for me lending me his car so I wasn’t with no way to work and for the Universe for putting me only 6 miles from his house so I wasn’t stranded along the side of the road when my car decided no more.
  2. Remember that all things are temporary. – Bad times don’t last. Everything has an end cycle. I’m not going to be without a car forever, my nose is going to heal, the wrong food order can be fixed. The sun always comes back out!
  3. Take some time by yourself. – Process the thoughts and emotions you’re having. Let them move through you and out of your mind. Take deep breaths. Slow down and step back to let yourself calm down.
  4. Build a plan to get out of your challenges, troubles, out from under the black cloud. – My first reaction to my car breaking down was freak out mode – it’s quoted to be like $7k to fix everything…step back, write out all my options, build a plan (I’ve decided to go car shopping – it’ll cost more to fix it than it’s worth and I put a heck of a lot of miles on my car). And I’m going to admit to you that it took me a few days to get out of freak out mode…it wasn’t my plan to get a new car until next year sometime.
  5. Get back to positive thoughts. – Write them down and read them aloud to yourself if you have to. Try and list out the possibilities and opportunities that are coming out of your obstacles. For example, buying a new car gives me the opportunity to finance for lower payments and let’s me have the choice to get something with better gas mileage since I drive much more than I used to. Look for the silver linings!

50 Self-Care Focused Hashtags to Follow for Encouragement

I am a big believer of surrounding yourself with inspiration and motivation. Some days we need a little push to get us through the day. Social media has had a huge impact on what we are surrounded by, unfortunately sometimes it can inundate us with negativity but we can take control of it to help skew what we interact with on a daily basis.

  1. Unfollow folks on social media that are constantly posting negativity. 
  2. Limit how much you watch the news. It’s important to stay up to date on what’s happening in the world and in your community but manage how often you’re taking it in. Choose one time per day to watch/read the news.
  3. Control how you are obtaining the news. Focus on using reliable media companies to get your news verses taking it in on social media sites. If you see something on social media, research for a fact filled story to follow up on what you saw.
  4. Express how you are feeling about the negativity you came in contact with. If it was something on the news that hit you hard, sit and write a list of what you can do to make a positive impact in response to it. If it was a negative situation you were involved in, take some time to journal and work through your feelings.
  5. Shift the scales and add more positive posts and images into your social media feeds. Follow inspirational accounts and motivational hashtags.

  1. #selfcare
  2. #selfcarematters
  3. #learningtolovemyself
  4. #selfcarefirst
  5. #selfcaretips
  6. #selfcare101
  7. #selflove
  8. #selflovematters
  9. #selflovefirst
  10. #loveyourself
  11. #selfcaresunday
  12. #selfcareissexy
  13. #selfcareissacred
  14. #selfcareisntselfish
  15. #selfcareeveryday
  16. #selfcareisnotselfish
  17. #selfcareeverydamnday
  18. #selfcareisimportant
  19. #selfcareempowerment
  20. #selfcaredaily
  21. #selfcareiskey
  22. #selfcareritual
  23. #selfcaresaturday
  24. #youdoyou
  25. #putyourselffirst
  26. #sundayselfcare
  27. #youareworthy
  28. #takecareofyou
  29. #selflovery
  30. #selflovejourney
  31. #selfloveproject
  32. #selfloveadvocate
  33. #selflovesunday
  34. #selfloveisdope
  35. #selflovewarrior
  36. #selfloveclub
  37. #selflovemovement
  38. #selflovechallenge
  39. #selfcaretribe
  40. #selflovequotes
  41. #selfloveisthebestlove
  42. #selfcareboss
  43. #selfcarerocks
  44. #selfcarequotes
  45. #selfcarediva
  46. #selfcarewarrior
  47. #selfcarechallenge
  48. #selflovetips
  49. #selfcareday
  50. #selflovetribe
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20 Things That Make Me Smile

Happy Positive Thinking Day!!!

A good day starts with a good thought. Wake up every morning and think happy things to get your day going. To celebrate Positive Thinking Day I made a list of twenty things that make me smile. A simple trick but a trick that works – If you’re feeling a little down, think of something wonderful in your life. Gratitude is a gateway to happiness. Train your mind to see the bright side of everything. 

  1. Having breakfast with my son.
  2. Flowers.
  3. A good laugh.
  4. Talking on the phone with my mom.
  5. Having a beer and chatting life stuff with my best friends.
  6. A hot cup of tea.
  7. Snuggling with my pup.
  8. Getting my nails done.
  9. Brownie batter. Yum!
  10. Making my loved ones smile.
  11. Having my artwork in an art show.
  12. Looking at the stars in the night sky.
  13. Laying on the beach.
  14. When my favorite song comes on the radio.
  15. Dancing in the kitchen.
  16. A good Netflix binge.
  17. The sunset.
  18. Curling up under a cozy blanket with a book.
  19. A long hike.
  20. Crossing something off my bucket list!

“Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect. It means you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.” ~ anonymous

10 Positive Quotes for When You’re In a Rut

I get by with a little help from my friends.” ~ The Beatles

The past couple of weeks have been a bit of a roller coaster for me. From feelings of stress to excitement to anxiety to rejection to frustration, it was quite the ride, I was all over the place. Just a passing time in my life. We all have these times, these ruts, those moments – and it’s okay, we’re human. I allowed the lack of balance in my life in those couple of weeks to get the better of me. I became overly self-critical and frustrated with myself. In reflection, that was the time I should have been more patient and more forgiving with myself. 

Yesterday I let it all out to my friends. It was like a I opened a stuck pipe…it was amazing, full of release, full of realness, it was like an ahhhh moment. It’s okay to need to lean on others sometimes. It’s okay to be in a funk and need a little help getting out of it. I don’t know about you, but I can get caught up trying to be so strong that sometimes I forget that I don’t need to do it on my own. Being truly strong isn’t about being on your own all the time, it isn’t about being able to carry the world on your shoulders and being able to take everything thrown at you in stride. True strength comes from being open about your vulnerability, it’s being confident in being able to ask for help when you need it, it’s about being honest about where you are in that moment. 

I’m glad I had that spurt of a rut. I’m glad that I had that learning opportunity. Because in it, I learned to be stronger, how to be more me, and was reminded how much love already exists in my life and around me. Being positive, being strong, and being a good person doesn’t mean we never have bad days or even weeks. It means that we can turn them around and that we can see a positive opportunity and lesson in them. 

1.) “Believe you can & you’re halfway there.” ~ T. Roosevelt

2.) “No rain, No flowers.” ~ unknown

3.) “Even the smallest steps move you forward.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

4.) “Every bad situation will have something positive. Even a dead clock shows correct time twice a day. Stay positive.” ~ unknown

5.) “Life is tough, darling, but so are you.” ~ Stephanie Bennett Henry

6.) “Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go, just remember how far you have come.” ~ unknown

7.) “Sometimes surrender means giving up trying to understand and become more comfortable not knowing.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

8.) “It’s okay to be a glowstick. Sometimes we have to break before we can shine.” ~ unknown

9.) “Tough times don’t last but tough people do. Never give up.” ~ Robert Schuller

10.) “Maybe life isn’t about avoiding the bruises, maybe it’s about collecting the scars to prove we showed up for it.” ~ unknown

 

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My 10 Winter Essentials for Surviving the Blue Months

Let’s say I’m one of those types that thrives better in warmer climates…yet I live in the crazy-can’t make up it’s mind about weather state of Pennsylvania so come January it gets a little chilly around here. From January through March we get to enjoy the beautiful scenery of freezing rain and the occasional peaceful snow dump. Don’t get me wrong, I love snow, it’s beautiful – at first…then it turns into a slushy mess – and I’m just not feeling the so cold temperatures we get around here. I try and rebel so much against winter that I have flip flops with fuzzy soft sheepskin lining. But with all that said, Winter still comes every year so I make a point to survive and be happy about it.

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My Winter Essentials:

1.  A cup of hot tea (when I say a cup, cups of tea) – nothing feels better than having a warm mug of hot tea between my hands when I’m feeling chilly and tea is so soothing and calming.

2. Fuzzy socks – let’s be real here, as soon as I get home the fuzzy socks come out of the drawer and on my feet they go!

3. Organic Coconut Oil & Lip Balm – the cold weather is rough on my skin and my face so I make sure to provide my skin and lips with lots of extra moisture. Coconut oil is amazing, it leaves my skin feeling soft and smooth and it smells great. Just heat it up a little (it typically comes in a jar in solid form) and slather it on – note though, it can get messy so pour a little in your palms over the sink and apply a little at a time.

4. Beanies – I keep a beanie with me at all times. Always have to keep my head warm. I love my beyond Beanie alpaca blend hat – it doesn’t mess up my hair much either which is great for when I’m heading into the office. The best thing about beyond Beanie is that I am giving back with my purchase. Use promo code LROMBERGER15 for 15% off!

5. A great pair of boots – I think it may be a requirement to have a pair of boots in Pennsylvania. With the icy conditions we get, it is key to be able to stable yourself. But boots are also a great winter style trend. I am working on a little bit of collection of boots. I have my suede boots, my heeled boots, my wine colored booties, my every day booties, and my equestrian boots (which are probably my favorite because I can wear them with almost anything and they are super comfy!)

6. A good book – Reading helps me continue to dream in adventures during the colder months. I can’t get outside quite as much when it’s cold so reading gives me the opportunity to escape. I also love to use this time that I’m hibernated in the house to focus on self-development and growth and there are lots of great books out there to catch up on that. I’m currently reading “You are a Badass: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living An Awesome Life” by Jen Sincero – this book is awesomely inspiring and motivating. Jen speaks in a very real tone which I find easy to relate to.

7. Leggings – I almost live in these during the winter. I wear them around the house with my fuzzy socks and a sweatshirt, I wear them with my boots and a sweater for lunch with my friends, I wear them with a sweater dress to the office…and of course I have my workout leggings for the gym. I’ve got a pair of leggings for everything.

8. My Sand Cloud Towel – this is super soft and is wonderful for wrapping up in when I’m sitting at my computer writing a blog post or curled up with my book. And it’s got that great bonus of going towards a good cause too! Shop Sand Cloud Towels and save 25% by using promo code RoLaura25

9. A comforting candle – nothing beats the warm glow and beautiful scent of a candle on a cold day – okay some things beat it but it’s pretty wonderful. (You can see a theme here) I love to light a candle and curl up in my leggings with my Sand Cloud towel with a good book…I’m telling you winter is a great time to cozy up and project yourself.

10. A cozy blanket scarf – this is a must have for me, and finding it is especially key to wear to the office…and in the office. They keep our office about as warm as a refrigerator!

As much as a winter person I may not be, I refuse to let the cold get me down, no winter blues here! I keep my arsenal of tools for joy and to stay cozy and warm and snug as a bug to keep a smile on my face…and I remind myself, “This is only temporary, Spring will be here soon.” <3

Check out some more of my favorite finds here – Winter Essentials

Being Powerful & Inspired: My Quote Wall & Making The Bed

I believe in surrounding myself with inspiration and motivation that fuels me throughout my day. I build my bedroom with the same idea. Every task I complete I want to inspire me…including making my bed… I am given a gift every morning that I awake. I am given the ability to go make my day any way I want it to be, the opportunity to make it an amazing day. I will admit some mornings are tough, sometimes the bed is too warm and the day is too cold, or I’m too tired and I know a long day awaits me, but each day I push myself out of bed.

I’ve been spending some time listening to Motivational Podcasts Every Woman Must Hear by TED Talks and some of the things I hear seem to be speaking right to me. It’s amazing how the Universe will put the message we need to hear right in front of us, all we have to do is be open to receive that message. One of the things that keep sticking out to me is that we can’t accomplish anything if we don’t set out to do it. I listened to one in particular on the way to work today that has really been ringing in my head  How To Stop Screwing Yourself Over . She speaks of how we condition ourselves to think everything is fine even when we aren’t satisfied. I spent the last year learning how to be more accepting of things in life, things beyond my control. I loved that I learned a great amount of patience through that and I learned how to not be angry (or not to hold onto anger) and that I believe has made me such a stronger and happier person but I think I also allowed myself to become complacent in some ways and that is a block. There is a difference between being accepting and rolling over and just letting things be. We must learn to create a balance between the two – allow ourselves to accept what we cannot change but to push ourselves to change what we can. Go after what you want in life!

Well now that I’ve gotten a bit off track in my tangent of motivation and podcasts… I made a decision to surround myself with things and thoughts of inspiration and motivation a while back and I began to build my quote wall. My quote wall lies right behind my bed. Each morning that I push myself out of my warm cozy bed (winter is not really my thing) I in turn get to make my bed and inhale in all the beautiful words I have put among myself. It is invigorating and amazing how my eyes always seem to fall upon the right quote at the right time. Some days, in those moments that I may be feeling challenged, I will come sit on my bed facing the wall and just breathe and let the quotes flow into me. My quotes come from all over, an eclectic collection for each day, for each challenge, that spoke to me in any such moment…

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

“I’m scared of failure all the time, but I’m not scared enough to stop trying.” ~ Ronda Rousey

“Create whatever causes a revolution in your heart.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert

“Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” ~ Dalai Lama

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up with more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never have enough.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

“Go for your dreams, and don’t let anything hold you back. Keep going no matter what it is you want to do in life.” ~ Layla Ali

How To Keep Joy In Your Life

My ex says to me, “You just want to go and be seen all the time.” His comment really irked me. It made me feel as if he was implying I was a show-off which doesn’t really fit my personality or my values and it bugged me. The comment stuck with me, it kept nagging at me and I kept analyzing it over and over. Driving home from the grocery store, laying down to sleep at night – I’d think of it. Such a simple comment that had become ever-so annoying to me, sticking in my mind. Last night it hit me, he was right – in a way.

I do want to be seen, and I want to be recognized not because I’m proud but because I eagerly want to be a part of this world. We should all want that, being together brings us joy. We were created to connect and to unite and to help each other. And yeah, I want a part in that, a chance to be part of something great, a part of our great humanity. But to understand that I had to change my perspective of his comment. After thinking that out I made a list of my rules for keeping joy in my life around the thought of how we should be living in this world, as part of this world, rules I live by every day. If you want to be truly joyful, you need to shine your light where ever you go, let that bright ray of sunshine from in you fall upon the world! 

My Angel of Strength

“Angel of Strength”

She is always here with me, walking beside me and pulling me up when I need her.

She helps me see beauty in every moment, even in painful ones.

As I get ready to enter into the New Year, I sit and think of the blessings that came out of 2016, the challenges that made me tougher, and the joys that made me see clearer, and the new beautiful friendships I have acquired.

I can feel the magic of 2017 creeping in my bones and am filled with enthusiasm to jump into the new year, a year for more growth and discovery and transformation.

“Angel of Strength”, mixed media, Paintings by LAR.

A Snowy Holiday Photo Shoot With Anthony Machcinski

Our first lay of snow of the season in Central Pennsylvania, and I had a photo shoot scheduled… what’s there to do, other than have a blast? There is nothing better than shooting with a photographer that is up for an adventure. So off we set to explore Hershey, PA for a day filled with unexpected props, quirky random sayings (I’m notorious for that), and an afternoon filled with laughter and purpose. 

Our first stop checked in at an old building foundation for a little tree pose practice. I must tell you, it takes a little balance to get into tree pose on a cinder block with a slick of ice on it…but I think we rocked it.

Next, we were off to the park at Chocolate Square. A beautiful little park filled with lights and lots of Christmas cheer. Feelings of being like a little kid again arose from me filling the park with our laughter and joy of the season. 

A quick wardrobe change and a little powder to my nose…

And then we were back out braving the cold for some fun fashion shoots. 

It was a cold, snowy day but it was a magnificent day for a photo shoot with Anthony Machcinski! 

Be sure to check out more of his work at PhotoByChinski and you can surely look forward to more adventurous shoots with him and I.

How To Not Freak Out In Christmas Crunch Time

Time is ticking…I’m feeling the pressure. I feel the anxiety creeping up, “Christmas is so close, I still have so much to do!” But this year, I’m not letting that get the best of me, no Bah-Humbugs here! 

My top 5 tips for keeping your cool when Christmas is so close:

  1. Breathe. It’ll all get done. Christmas is about time with loved ones, not checking off the to-do list. If you run out of time, get creative. Don’t have your best friend’s gift quite together yet? Schedule your best buds wine & gift swap for the week after Christmas. It still counts!
  2. Spread your tasks out over the next few days. Still have all your gifts to wrap? Wrap some each night instead of pulling an all-nighter. Don’t burn yourself out trying to catch up.
  3. Remember it doesn’t have to be perfect to be magical. No time to bake cookies this year? Stop by a local bakery and pick up some sweet treats.
  4. Don’t wait until last minute to do your grocery shopping for Christmas Dinner. Go a few days before Christmas. And make a list of what you need before you go. Going early, you’ll miss the stressed-out, crazy last minute shoppers on Christmas Eve plus you’ve given yourself a few extra days cushion in case you forgot the hot cocoa for Christmas Eve cuddles.
  5. Take a moment each day to think of what you’re thankful for and why the holidays are meaningful. This will help keep your mind positive and focused on the true meaning of Christmas.

Christmas is a time to celebrate love, family, and friends. It is a time for us to all get together and celebrate all that we have together. Don’t allow the busyness of that the holidays bring shadow that truth. Keep it cool and together this year so that you can truly enjoy the spirit of the holidays. 

Photo Credit: Anthony Machcinski https://www.facebook.com/PhotoByChinski/?fref=ts