How to Make “Me” Time

I spent part of my evening today with the music turned up and dancing in the kitchen all by myself…and I was loving it. Last Friday, I enjoyed sipping a beer while watching everyone else buzz around me…I look forward to my time curled up on my bed with my laptop before I hit the sack every night…

Solitude: noun –

the state of being or living alone; seclusion

Some identify solitude as a lonely state but I find it a peaceful state. I’ve learned to enjoy my “me” time quite much. It gives me time to reflect, it gives me time to observe, and it gives me a place to remove all the screens that I put up to the world. Having solitude, ‘alone time’ or ‘me time’ is critical to living a well-balanced life and to a good self-care routine. For both introverts and extroverts (and ambiverts), it is a time to recharge and to reflect, and to relax. There was a time that I had a hard time finding time for my solitude. My schedule was so busy and not living alone can also make it a challenge but I found myself starving for it, craving that down time. It was a challenge I needed to find a solution to.

  1. Evaluate how you are currently spending your time. Take a look at your schedule. Do you spend time doing tasks that aren’t necessary or can be eliminated? What can you take out so that you have more open time?
  2. Schedule some alone time in your planner. Block off a little time just for you. Get up early before everyone else and claim that quiet time as yours, or set aside some time in the evening, whatever works for your schedule, plan on at least an hour to spend by yourself every few days.
  3. Make a list of things you can do alone. – reading, taking a bubble bath, coloring or painting, journaling…even just curling up and scanning Pinterest…whatever strikes your fancy!
  4. Get outside. Nature holds so much beauty and strength. It is a perfect place to find peace and solitude. Take a walk or go for a hike in the woods or take a solo bike ride along the river trail.
  5. Set boundaries. Say no. Don’t be afraid to turn down an invite if you’re cozied up for some down time. This takes a little practice but get into the habit of not overbooking your schedule. Allow time for you to just have chill time. Don’t feel guilty for turning down social activities to have some alone time.


How a Clean Space Helps Create a Clear Mind

This morning I awoke with a cluttered mind, filled with worry and muddled thoughts. I fought to clear my mind, to push all my racing thoughts away. A huge part of me just wanted to stay in bed today. We all have those days, and some of those days it’s best to just stay in bed, today wasn’t one of those. I knew I needed to get up and do something to help organize my thoughts. I’ve found that sometimes the only way we can start to declutter our mind is to declutter our physical space. This creates more breathable space for ourselves, it starts a process of thinking that we need to be in. So I set to work on my shelves, my dresser, and my many stacks of mail and papers. As I moved through each stack of items I found myself becoming calmer, my thoughts slowing down. Maybe it was my refocus or maybe it was the physical activity of clearing through things but it was transforming into a therapy for me. I needed to create space for my creativity to flow and for my mind to find a peaceful spot. An organized space helps us feel more in control, it empties out physical areas of chaos allowing our minds to transform that energy inward. 

I was able to make this space mine again and in doing that it presented satisfaction and power back to me. This power gave me the opportunity to take control of my thoughts. I spent the rest of the day sketching, painting, and coloring allowing my emotions to flow out of me through artistry. This helped me remain calm throughout the day, even though I had worries floating in my mind, it gave me time to process my racing thoughts. We can many times find ourselves overwhelmed with thoughts, stress, and worry and we in turn result to ‘stuck mode’, this is how I felt when I woke today. I didn’t know what to do with everything that was on my mind. I needed to find a way to work through it physically and to make myself move. Productivity can be therapeutic. For me today was about clearing space. Since I was struggling to clear my mind, I started by clearing my physical space creating an environment to move forward in. Sometimes we need to start on the outside to work towards inner peace. 

“Clutter is not just the stuff on your floor – It’s anything that stands between you and the life you want to be living.” ~ Peter Walsh

Sunday Reflection

Sunday – a day for relaxation, refreshment, and reflection.

“A Sunday well spent brings a week of content”

zen garden

I find I do most of my reflection on Sundays… It seems the world slows down a little on these days. I usually get to sleep in a little, stay in the dream realm just a little longer which leaves me awakening with a sense of wonder and in thought. No office to rush to on Sunday mornings, nothing to derail my mind. I am in a peaceful moment, it is quiet in the home…gives me the space to think…

If you’ve been following me for some time, then you’ve seen my comes and go’s…I set goals, I plan, I blog and then I get busy and fall away. For awhile I would beat myself up for not sticking to my set routines but as I grow I come to accept my ways some. I have come to accept that even though I wish I could be, I’m not a super hero and I can’t be pulled several ways. I’m not saying that blogging and art and writing are not important to me because they very much are and are a part of who I am but I can only focus on so much at a time and to be quite honest I get very tired sometimes…no excuses, just facing what is. “Failure is nothing more than a chance to revise your strategy”. I won’t say I’ve failed because today I am still farther than I was five years, or even ten years ago. I am merely working out my “strategy”, what works for me. If being the blogger that comes and goes is what works for me now, than that is who I will be, like a mystery – what has she been doing, what is she up to…and I love mysteries. I’ve been out working hard, playing in my free time, and living life…so I shouldn’t beat myself up. I do want to get better at blogging consistently, I just haven’t found what works for me so I’m growing a little slower than other blogs but that’s okay. I am exactly where I need to be, where the universe needs me to be. I look up to the bloggers that do so well at blogging every week or every day, and I read and watch, and continue to learn.

Advice for me from me:  1. Set shorter timelines for my goals – 30 day Challenges don’t stick for me, try 15 days, or even just a week. 2. Be patient with my success, steps forward are still steps forward even if it’s just an inch. 3. Find a way to enjoy all tasks. Fill my schedule with things I love, and if I don’t love it and it’s mandatory – find something happy in that moment. – but make time to do more of what I love, don’t get bogged down with busywork all of the time.

And a last minute blogging thought – stop trying to write the perfect blog post – it just blocks me from writing at all. If I want to share I sketch I drew, share it. If I have a quote to share, share it…and if I have a whole post of thoughts to write then by all means, share it. Be yourself in your blog and your tribe will find you.

*Artwork is a page shared from my art journal.