by Mianna Korben
We’re constantly under pressure because we feel like our “beautiful” is not beautiful enough due to the fact that fake beauty (that is often portrayed in fashion magazines and social media) is something we feel we have to live up to. Low self-esteem can negatively affect virtually every aspect of your life – from your physical and mental health to your career and relationships.
Here are 5 habits that can help you boost your confidence in an instant:
Stop comparing yourself to others.
Nothing will kill your self-esteem faster than constantly comparing yourself to others. Think about it: you’ve only got a limited amount of time to spend on this planet, so why would you waste it on wishing you were someone else?
Besides, you never know what kind of battle someone else is secretly fighting, so do yourself a favor and break free of envy and resentment towards people who seem to have it all.
Start by making a list of things you love about yourself and read it to yourself out loud every day. Each time you get the urge to compare yourself to another person, think about all the things in your life you’re grateful for. Finally, try to transform comparison into motivation by letting the lives of others inspire you to work harder and take better care of yourself.
Set goals and stick to them.
The satisfaction you get every time you achieve one of your life goals is exactly what genuine self-confidence feels like. We all have our moments of self-doubt that make us question our purpose in life, and this is where goal-setting can make a huge difference.
Whether it’s changing your career, losing weight, learning a new skill, or overcoming a phobia, your goals should be based on your personal interests and values. Forget about what the society tells you about life goals. Not everyone’s idea of happiness includes a corporate career or a life of luxury. The benchmark of success depends entirely on an individual, so you need to think about what’s that one thing you can do to bring more joy into your life.
A smile is one of the simplest, cheapest, and most effective self-confidence tools you have at your disposal. Every time you smile, your brain releases chemicals called endorphins which activate the natural reward system and produce a feeling of euphoria.
Now, if you haven’t been taking care of your teeth properly, smiling more is probably the last thing you want to do. So if you want to give yourself an instant dose of self-confidence, the first thing on your to-do list should be a smile makeover. Not only will your dazzling set of pearly whites attract compliments from friends and strangers alike, but it will also lift your spirits and make you feel better in your own skin. As the specialists from the Oceanic Dental Lab in Australia – a country that knows all about the benefits of smiling – put it, “the better your teeth are, the healthier you look and feel.”
Speak up for yourself.
If you’re naturally a reserved person who shies away from attention, you probably have a hard time voicing your opinions in front of others. Don’t worry – while being a confident and assertive speaker comes easily to some, at the end of the day it’s still a skill anyone can learn if they set their mind to it.
First, identify the situations that make you feel apprehensive about standing up for yourself and the force yourself to act next time you’re in one of those situations. Give yourself a mental pep talk every time you feel like backing down and practice confidence-boosting body language.
Spend time with positive people.
Even the most confident people need encouragement from time to time, so think carefully about the company you keep. Is there anyone you interact with on a daily basis who’s making you feel like you’re not good enough? Do people you spend time with support your goals and dreams or are they doing their best to keep you stuck in place?
Don’t be afraid to cut off anyone who brings negativity into your life. While these people may not necessarily wish you any harm and they’re most likely dealing with their own insecurities, it’s not your job to fix broken people. Instead, start practicing self-love and set an example for others to follow.
Taking care of your smile and sharing it with others any chance you get, using others for inspiration instead for comparison, setting realistic goals, speaking your mind, and surrounding yourself with positivity will help you discover your self-worth and grow into a confident, vibrant person who knows how to live life to the fullest.