Several years ago, I wrote a post about emotions and how it’s okay to have them. I believe that it’s important to have them, they’re there for a specific reason. They are a very important part of our healing process. They act as a guide.
Throwback Thoughts about Emotions
I take pride in being the happy and always optimistic one in the bunch. So much pride that I find myself not allowing myself to feel hurt, feel sad, or to feel angry. But being optimistic doesn’t mean we shouldn’t feel other emotions. Being optimistic means seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, it means knowing fully in your heart that it will be okay, no matter what you’re facing.
We need to feel all of our emotions. We need to allow them to process, to run their course, and to pass through us. Each emotion has its purpose. Each part of our mind’s, our heart’s, our soul’s healing. If we skip moving through them the process cannot ever fully complete. Being sad or being angry doesn’t mean I am a downer, it doesn’t mean I’ve lost hope, it’s just what I’m feeling. Relish each emotion in its moment, feel it deeply in your soul, and then let it go. Let it drift off.
As you travel through each emotion, remind yourself, “Everything is temporary. This shall too pass”, and then everything will be okay.
The Healing Process
Each of us will have a slightly varied healing process but this part will be pretty closely the same. We all have emotions and feelings.
It’s okay to need to sit in your room cry, scream – express your emotions. These emotions need to be released. This is your first step in your healing process. This is you accepting the situation and how it feels to you.
Now that you have accepted the emotions and feelings and you’ve given into feeling them, this is where the work begins.
*Side note – I know managing feelings and emotions is hard work, absolutely exhausting, but that’s just it – we are constantly trying to manage our feelings. Let them flow. Not all over the place but flow into a safe space.
If you’re feeling stuck with heartache, these are good first steps for everyone. The details will vary but the structure for the healing process is the same.
Make a list of activities that are soothing to you. Prioritize the list, what makes you feel the best? Put these at the top of your list. For me, this is painting or taking a hike. Physically write out or type up this list.
Call someone that feels safe where you can share your feelings. This is the person that you can call bawling, yelling, or whatever. You feel safe and never worry about being judged.
Do something off of your soothing list.
Grab your journal and write out all your thoughts and your current feelings. Your mind should be starting to move through different thoughts now, as you start to release different barriers and emotions.
Repeat the above four. Repeat again. Keep repeating.